Thoughts of Suicide

Just last week I received a surprise e-mail from the pastor of the Topeka church that I was raised in, giving the sad news that a friend in the church from years back had died suddenly, by suicide. This is always a tragic thing – leaving behind feelings of confusion and hurt. It seems like there’s been a surge of such things recently. I don’t know the causes, nor do I presume to have all the answers. But recent conversations have motivated me to share a few thoughts on the topic of suicide, and the related topics of death and salvation.

 

While I am sure that many Wabaunsee County Pastors will agree with me on most and maybe all of these points, I feel it’s important to say that I am not speaking for them – just myself. Several points can be made here:

  1. Some people go with the assumption that says, “If you commit suicide, you automatically go to hell.” The Bible never says anything like this.
  2. I agree with a Baptist colleague of mine who pointed out that it is possible for genuine Christian believers to make the mistake of committing suicide. He told me, “It only takes a second to do something stupid.”
  3. That said, I also believe that suicide is always contrary to God’s will. No one should die that way. Many of us understand the 5th Commandment to also apply to suicide: “You shall not murder.” (Exodus 20:13, Deuteronomy 5:17)
  4. Some Christians believe that if you if you commit a “mortal” sin before you die (or at the moment of death) you will lose your salvation. In order to get right with God they believe that you need to be “re-justified” – often by going through certain acts of penance before you die. I don’t agree with this. Jesus said that anger is as big a sin as murder (Matthew 5:21-22). I’d hate to think that if I had an angry thought the moment before I died that I’d lose my salvation.
  5. I don’t believe that our salvation is based so much on performing certain acts of penance as it is on our faith-relationship with God (Ephesians 2:8-9). Our salvation is relational. God is our friend. Jesus is our friend. When we put our faith and trust in Christ, we accept that friendship and enter that relationship with Him. God isn’t going to let us down in the end, because He’s still our friend. Faith is the condition of salvation. The only way that a sin near or at the point of death can mean the loss of our salvation is if it means the loss of our faith.
  6. Ultimately we don’t know who is unsaved. God is the only one who knows, since He’s the one who takes the initiative in salvation. Sometimes we can guess based on outward evidences and signs of faith in life (I Thessalonians 1:4-5a). But that’s the most we can do. And not all responses of faith are outwardly visible. Some people are very private persons – especially when it comes to religious matters.
  7. We can be sure, however, that a person has entered eternal life if they have been “born again” by faith in Jesus Christ (John 3:3). When I do funerals for such folks, I proclaim boldly that we know that they have entered the heavenly kingdom.
  8. I don’t believe that you have to be a doctrinal genius in order to be born again. When I came to know Christ, all that I knew was that God is God, Jesus is His son, that I needed to be forgiven, and that I wanted to know more. It’s the most important decision I’ve ever made in my life.
  9. Being “born again” means being a new creature in Christ (II Corinthians 5:17), turning away from the past into a life of faith in God (I Thessalonians 1:8-10). It need not be narrowly defined as single-moment experience, though it may well happen in that way. But it can also come through an upbringing of Christian nurture in a church. Either way, our God is a God who gives new, fresh starts – forgiveness of sins and new life in Jesus name.
  10. God has plans and purposes for every person. The fact that you are alive today is a sign that He’s not done with you. So don’t give up and cut things short. You may miss out on your life’s greatest blessings.


God bless you,

Andrew McHenry – Pastor, Maple Hill Community Congregational Church